Destinee Virgin had nowhere to run, but she tried.
The 18-year-old got out of her silver 2004 Nissan Altima in traffic and ran on Macon Road, at the Rigdon Road red light, yelling for help, trying to find refuge in other cars.
As multiple witnesses watched around 7 p.m. on Sept. 22, her ex-boyfriend, Markel Ervin, got out of her car, chased her and repeatedly shot her with a 9mm pistol, detectives said.
He ran back to her car and sped to Harris County, where he was caught overnight, according to police.
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Charged with murder, Ervin turned 18 Dec. 20 in the Muscogee County Jail.
Virgin was among three people 18 or younger killed last year in Columbus shootings, the others an 18-year-old man and a boy only 3.
From Feb. 14, 2018 — the day of the Parkland massacre that left 14 students and three adults dead — to Feb. 13, 2019, at least 51 people 18 or younger died in Georgia from gun-related injuries, according to a McClatchy newspaper analysis of data from independent research group Gun Violence Archive done in conjunction with The Trace, a nonprofit newsroom that studies gun violence.
Nationwide, at least 1,149 young people were killed by gun violence during that yearlong span. The Trace assembled a team of more than 200 high school students to research and write 100-word portraits of every named victim, including the 51 in Georgia. They are being published today.
Macon had six teen gun deaths, Richmond-Augusta had four, and Savannah had three. The circumstances of Georgia’s teen gun deaths in the 2017-2018 McClatchy analysis varied.
In Columbus, based on 10 years of records from the Muscogee County Coroner’s office, half the deaths of 16 gun-related homicide victims 18 or younger involved a domestic situation.
Georgia leads the nation in domestic teen violence. Meanwhile, Columbus police are alarmed at the firepower found on teens these days, despite state laws that prohibit anyone 17 or younger having a gun.
Adding a firearm to domestic abuse is “a huge red flag,” said Lindsey Reis, executive director of Hope Harbour, a Columbus shelter for those trying to escape.
After Destinee Virgin’s death, her mother, Mechelle Virgin, decided fighting teen dating violence and other domestic abuse would be her daughter’s legacy.
“I don’t want her death to go unnoticed or forgotten,” the mother said.
Of Columbus’ eight gun-related deaths of those 18 or younger over the past 10 years with some domestic circumstance, some involved a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, as alleged in Virgin’s case, and in some instances an adult in the household killed children.
While leading the nation in teen dating violence, Georgia ranks eighth in the country for the rate at which men kill women.
State authorities for 15 years have extensively studied the issue of domestic violence, annually issuing a report called the Georgia Domestic Violence Fatality Review Project. The report is compiled by the Georgia Commission on Family Violence and the Georgia Coalition Against Domestic Violence.
Several state judicial circuits participate in the effort, and the six-county Chattahoochee Judicial Circuit that includes Columbus is one of them.
Reis, director of the 43-bed Columbus shelter Hope Harbour, noted that half the victims in the fatality review were between the ages of 13 and 24 when they started relationships with the partners who eventually killed them.
She said teenagers’ romantic relationships form the foundation of what they afterward expect love to be.
“It is a time period for the children, that’s the children or teens, to learn about healthy relationships, to know what behaviors are acceptable, especially with technology and some of that stuff,” she said.
If they learn to accept abuse as “normal,” then they continue to accept it.
“It’s not talked about a lot,” Reis said. “For them there’s some normal behavior. It’s been normalized. It’s happening to everyone, so it’s not a big deal, when it actually is a very big deal.”
If they don’t leave an abusive relationship, they may never realize their lives could be better, because they’ll adapt to it and endure, sometimes for decades, Reis said, recalling a woman who stayed with an abusive man for 28 years, until he pushed her daughter with special needs through a wall.
Often a threat to their children is what finally drives victims to escape, Reis said.
Teenagers trying to flee such abuse need adults who can help, she added.
“They’ve got to talk to an adult they can trust,” Reis said. “That is their number one thing. ... And if you are that adult that they trust, believe what they say. Understand that it was very hard for them to come to you. Even though it’s young love, or whatever they may be thinking, it is very real to them, and bad things are happening.”
Mechelle Virgin said she did not ignore the changes she saw in her daughter as a result of dating Ervin, and told Destinee what she was experiencing was not normal.
She said her daughter met Ervin at Carver High, before he dropped out. As the relationship progressed, the mother noticed Ervin became increasingly obsessive, to the point that he would be on Facebook’s Live FaceTime all night with Destinee, watching her sleep.
The mother said she knew this because Ervin played video games, and she could hear the game noises coming from Destinee’s room until 5 a.m. when the mother got up to go to work.
Such obsessive behavior is considered a warning sign of impending danger. So is the presence of a gun.
Among the Georgia fatality project’s findings:
▪ A gunshot was the cause of death in 73 percent of all the state’s 758 domestic violence deaths from 2010 to 2017.
▪ A study of Georgia’s family violence incidents shows assaults involving firearms are 12 times more likely to result in death.
“You’ll hear the victims here say, ‘He held a gun to my head,’ or ‘He pointed his gun at me,’ ” Reis said.
Breaking up not only is hard to do, in an abusive relationship, it’s dangerous.
“That is the most dangerous time for a victim,” Reis said. “That is also the time when more women are killed, when they have left the relationship, or when they’re in the process of leaving the relationship.”
It takes considerable courage, she added: “They’re very brave, when they call us. It’s a scary time.”
Typically teens fleeing to Hope Harbour need their parents’ permission, but emergencies may trigger what’s called the “runaway act,” allowing the shelter to take a teen for one or two days without the parents’ consent, she said. “That does not happen very often.”
Hope Harbour also offers aid such as legal advocacy, should victims need help in getting a temporary restraining order against an abusive partner, she said. They do not have to be staying at the shelter to use those services.
In the “safety plan” the shelter recommends victims consider, they are to assemble all their important documents (credit cards, birth certificate, insurance papers, etc.) so they will have those should they need to flee to safety. They also may arrange to have a trusted friend or relative they can call with a code word to mean they need the police, should they fear calling 911 in an abuser’s presence.
They also have the option of calling a 24-hour crisis hotline, she said. That will connect them with someone who can offer advice on how to develop a safety plan and how to discuss the matter with their parents.
Friends can help, too, Reis said: “If you’re a friend who knows this is happening, it kind of goes the same way. Talk to that friend, don’t tell them just to break up or just to leave, have that conversation so that they’ll talk to you. Just leaving or just stopping a relationship is never easy for a victim, if they’re a teen or an adult.”
Informed by the domestic violence fatality review, Georgia has taken steps to address the issue, more recently changing laws to classify strangulation as felony aggravated assault, extend unemployment benefits to people who must leave work to escape abuse, and add other electronic communications to prohibitions on harassing phone calls.
The state has family violence laws aimed at documenting and penalizing such abuse and training law enforcement to gauge the danger a domestic violence victim faces, so investigators can determine whether further assistance is needed.
But Georgia lags behind neighboring states in passing laws to mirror a federal prohibition on anyone owning a gun after a domestic violence conviction, advocates say, and state authorities can’t enforce the federal law without a matching state provision. Judges, however, can order the surrender of any firearms if a case comes to court.
‘Like Easter eggs’
Authorities are alarmed at the level of firepower found on teens these days.
Their ages range “anywhere from 13 to 17 or 18 years old,” said Gil Slouchick, Columbus’ assistant police chief. “We’re finding good guns, quality firearms. They’re not buying them. They’re stealing them.”
When caught with guns at school, kids told another story: They found the guns, just lying on the ground, at the bus stop or on the sidewalk on the way to school, said former juvenile court prosecutor Danielle Forte. “They were finding them like Easter eggs,” she said.
It got to be a running theme in juvenile court, said Forte, who left the prosecutor’s office last year, when she was elected clerk of the Superior Court.
Slouchick said kids aren’t just stealing guns, they’re using the stolen guns in other crimes.
“To give you an example, the other night we had a car chase, a stolen car,” he said. “The vehicle was finally stopped, on Torch Hill Road. Several juveniles jumped out of the car and ran ... and as they jumped out of the car, they dropped a stolen handgun on the ground.”
Guns and immaturity are a dangerous combination.
“It’s a maturity level,” Slouchick said of handling firearms. “Guns are not to be played with. They’re not a joke. And when you find 15-, 14- and 13-year-old kids out here committing felonies — and while they’re committing felonies, they’re armed with firearms — that’s a dangerous and not very comfortable position to put the police in.”
A possible confrontation is a constant worry.
“It worries me every day, the possibility of one of these kids pulling a gun on a police officer, and the officer’s going to do what he’s trained to do,” the assistant chief said. “But what we’re seeing more of is they’re pulling the guns on each other.”
Under Georgia law, anyone younger than 18 caught with a handgun the first time faces a misdemeanor punishable by a fine up to $1,000 and a year in detention. The law says a subsequent violation could lead to a $5,000 fine or three years’ incarceration.
The law has exceptions for shooting competitions and other special circumstances.
For those 16 or younger who go to juvenile court, the first offense typically results in probation, attorneys say.
Senior Assistant District Attorney Wayne Jernigan Jr. said any subsequent offense can be a Class B Designated Felony, for which the violator in juvenile court may be sentenced to 18 months detention and 36 months of supervision by the Department of Juvenile Justice.
Once a teen turns 17, he is an adult under the law, and can be detained in the county jail.
Secure your guns
Fewer teens would have guns if fewer adults left them in cars.
“You don’t know how many times we go to the scene of a vehicle that’s been broken into, and the owner says, ‘They’ve stolen my laptop; they’ve stolen my 9 millimeter.’ What are you doing leaving this stuff in your car?” asked Slouchick, the assistant police chief.
People who have firearms in their homes should secure them in a gun safe, he said. Gun safes also can be installed in automobiles.
“A gun safe not only protects your guns from people who enter your house illegally, it also protects the weapons from the kids that come into your house legally; it keeps them away from the children.”
It’s also crucial to record each weapon’s make, model and serial number, Slouchick said, in case it is stolen. That information can be entered into the National Crime Information Center database, so that if police anywhere in the country find the gun, they will know its origin.
If authorities have that information, “you’ve got a pretty good chance of getting your property back,” he said. But the gun owner also has to store that information securely, and not, for example, record it only on a laptop also left in a car to be stolen.
He particularly emphasizes this: Don’t leave a gun in a car overnight.
“When you go home at night, if you’ve got your gun in your car, take it out of your car and secure it somewhere safely in your home.”
A mother’s crusade
Destinee Virgin had dreams of joining the Navy, becoming a medical technician and eventually a pediatrician. She was in Junior ROTC all through high school, and started a medical training program after graduating from Carver.
“She was a very loving child, very happy, outgoing,” said her mother, Mechelle Virgin. “She was the motherly type. ... She was always babysitting, always keeping somebody’s kids, very bighearted.”
Her behavior changed drastically after April 25, 2018, when she and Ervin went out to eat downtown, and Destinee didn’t come home. Her mother reported her missing, and police found the teen had been battered.
Arrested May 15 when police caught him firing a gun on Floyd Road — he was charged with reckless conduct and being a minor with a handgun — Ervin faced additional charges of kidnapping and false imprisonment.
He was released on $50,000 bond on May 30.
Destinee was never the same after the alleged kidnapping, her mother said.
“She lost interest in everything. Anything that made her happy, she wasn’t doing it anymore. All she wanted to do was be in the house in her room, with a hoodie on her head,” Mechelle Virgin said. “She didn’t want to do her hair; she didn’t want to go to school. I had to force her to eat.”
She didn’t date Ervin after that, said Mechelle Virgin, who couldn’t say how they ended up in the same car the day Destinee died, because attorneys advised her not to discuss the pending murder case.
That day she was killed, Destinee told her mother she was going to the store and would be right back, but she wasn’t home when her mom left for work at Hostess Brands. The mother couldn’t have a phone with her on the production line, so someone came by to tell her she had an emergency.
She went to get her phone, and found it “lit up” with calls and messages. “Somebody was screaming in the phone, ‘Your baby got shot,’ and I just ran out of the building,” the mother recalled.
Waiting hours at the hospital, she thought her daughter was in surgery, and did not find out until midnight that she had died at 7:45 p.m.
Now she wants to use her daughter’s legacy to fight domestic violence, particularly among teens.
“I don’t want her name to be forgotten. I want to raise awareness, because domestic violence is real and it’s happening to these younger kids every day, so we need to pull together as a community, because this truly has gotten out of hand.”
The Virgin family formed a nonprofit called “Destinee’s Peace,” and the mother speaks to groups about the issue, hoping other lives can be saved.
After Destinee’s fatal shooting, people started “opening up” to her about their experiences, she said: “They were saying, ‘Hey, this happened to me,’ or ‘Can you help me?’ … Young ladies have reached out to me already on social media.”
What would she tell a parent whose child is in such trouble?
“You can never be too involved with your kids,” she answered. “I can’t stress that enough. ... No matter what, stay involved.”
She had a message for teenagers, too: “Love does not hurt. If they put their hands on you once, they’re going to do it again. It won’t be the last time.”