This goes out to all my baby mamas
I got love for all my baby mamas
Its about time we had our own song
Dont know what took so long
Cause now-a-days it like a badge of honor
To be a baby mama
I see ya payin ya bills
I see ya workin ya job
I see ya goin to school
And girl I know its hard
And even though ya fed up
With makin beds up
Girl, keep ya head up
-- My Baby Mama -- Fantasia Barrino
Can you see me shaking my head? And I dont mean to the beat of the music. Actually, outside of the lyrics, the subject of the song and the condition it defines, have very little to do with whats making me shake my head in disgust.
Theres an Atlanta rapper who goes by the name Shawty Lo, and somehow, Oxygen Media decided to produce a reality show on him and his 10 babies mamas and 11 children. When I first heard about this, my mind said it must be a joke, a bad joke at that. Who in their right mind would think such a thing could be entertaining? The show was to be called All My Babies Mamas. See, now youre shaking your head, too.
There are some realities I just dont want to know about, and 10 babies mamas is one of them. Shawty (real name Carlos Walker) must have been kicked in the head by a mule -- not only for agreeing to do the opposite of the Cosby Show -- but for spreading his seed around like a prized bull. Maybe he was trying to prove something, but all he has proven is that hes a prolific sperm donor. I dont know what kind of father he is, but parading your children in front of TV cameras with a thundering horde of mamas, tells me old Shawty isnt the ideal daddy, if he can claim the daddy title at all.
I can see where such an exploitative show might be interesting. Its got drama written all over it. Its tough enough to raise two children in the same home with one mama, much less raising 11 children in 10 different households and Shawtys not living with any of them. His 36-year-old ass is now dating a 19-year-old who should check her IQ against the 10 mamas. Id bet theres not a point difference between them.
There are voices that say its OK to be raised by a single parent. I get that. I was raised by a divorced mother. Did we get by? Sure. Was it ideal? No.
Blended families are everywhere, but how does a child explain their siblings spread over 10 mamas? What about the statistics that plainly show that children born to impoverished single mothers will most likely live their entire lifetimes in poverty, too?
Shawty is not the first to make a splash over the multiplication of mamas and children. Tennessees Desmond Hatchett may hold the record. Hes sired 30 children by 11 babies mamas. He first hit the news in 2009 at the ripe old age of 29 when he had only 21 children and couldnt keep up his child support payments. Go figure. Im glad I wasnt the child support judge, I may have said or done something inappropriate.
Shawty and Desmond are no more than stud horses that dont have the sense God gave a cow, no insult to the cow, but dumber creatures have never walked the Earth. And that goes for the multiple mothers, too. What about Shawty and Desmond was that attractive for them to join the lineup?
For my money, any show that would exploit the miserable is not worth watching. But then again, thats what reality shows are all about. This babies mamas show would have brought a new meaning to the term low class.
Fortunately, someone at Oxygen Media woke up from a coma -- prodded by two online protests that attracted almost 80,000 votes to cancel the show, and said, stop it.
A wiser decision was never made. I still wonder how the idea got beyond the I-cant-believe-this-proposal stage?
Charles E. Richardson is The Telegraphs editorial page editor. He can be reached at (478)744-4342 or via e-mail at crichardson@macon.com. Tweet@crichard1020.




